My anxiety doesn’t feel like a heart attack I don’t breath into a paper bag I don’t think I am dying I don’t shake I don’t scream My anxiety greets me in the morning As soon as I stir, its there Perched on my chest Weighing it down I can’t get a full breath I’m... Continue Reading →
I Can Feel the Connection
I met a man using Tinder. We met at a bar. We sat outside on the back patio in big cozy club chairs across from each other. I can distinctly recall feeling like I could read his face and body in a way that I was not used to. It wasn’t really reading, it was... Continue Reading →
Healing from Relationships Through Relationships
I have always felt (and still do) that I have an infinite well of love and care to give - this is a feature of my Self that I cherish. I cherish the fact that this belief, this false belief, resides with my heart – for it shows me my most tender and vulnerable self,... Continue Reading →
The Letter I Gave My Husband 6 Months Before I Left
This is a letter I sent in response to a angry/blaming letter I received after a two-day no talking fight that started when they told me they were unhappy with how I texted them earlier that day . During the car ride of 15 minutes they had unloaded more than the text content - they... Continue Reading →
Toothpaste
Toothpaste - It’s the stuff you depend on to allow a confident handshake, a hug, and even an enjoyable kiss. Before my last relationship got serious I would buy a new kind of toothpaste every time. Never the same tube twice. I loved the variety and I liked most of the pastes I met. Some... Continue Reading →
Assumptions I Make on Purpose
I wholeheartedly disagree with the notion that we should not make assumptions about other people. Not to say that we should be willy-nilly, judgmental, or insensitive in our assumptions. I believe we should be making compassionate and calculated assumptions. The following assumptions are related and work best when utilized together. Assumption 1: The Struggle... Continue Reading →
3 Questions for Dating (and other relations)
As we enter into all of our relationships, whether they are friendships, business partnerships, romantic or otherwise; we are obligated to know ourselves well enough to communicate what we want, what we cannot tolerate, and what we have to share with our (potential) partners in relating. By spending time to search our hearts and minds... Continue Reading →